VIP Class Notes (Jesse) [W]

My attitude towards conflict.

Me, Myself always try to avoid all kinds of conflicts which may encounter in daily life. I don’t like to argue with people, including family, friends or even strangers because I am not good at dealing with it and most important, I am afraid that the feelings between each other may not be the same after arguing. In the end, I have to take in all the negative energies home with me and blame myself not being brave enough.

My impression around my friends, I believe they will say I am very easy-going person with a very good temper. Sometimes I am too nice, they will say I am a yes woman. If there are things that I don’t want to do, I will stay silent and if someone pushes me, I will agree to do it. Sometimes, it brings me too much pressure and make me feel unhappy. After did a self-analysis, I think the reason I act like this is because deep inside of me, I lack security for all the relationships so I will try to please everyone except myself. However, it starts to become a burden in my life so now I am trying hard to be brave to talk out loud for my actual feelings with people and be true to myself.

My attitude towards conflict.

I, personally, always try to avoid all kinds of conflicts which I may encounter / experience / come across in my daily life. I don’t like to argue with people, including family, friends or even strangers because I am not good at dealing with it and most importantly, I am afraid that the feelings that we have for each other / the relationship may not be the same after arguing. In the end, I have to take on all the negative energy / take the negativity home with me and blame myself for not being brave enough.

My impression around my friends, I believe they will say I am very easy-going person with a very good temper. Sometimes I am too nice, they will say I am a pushover / I am too easy. If there are things that I don’t want to do, I will stay silent and if someone pushes me, I will agree to do it. Sometimes, it brings me too much pressure and makes me (feel) unhappy / it gets me down / and it bothers me a lot / it really affects me. After I did / after doing a self-analysis, I think the reason I act like this is because deep down, I lack security for all relationships so I will try to please everyone except myself. However, it starts to become a burden in my life so now I am trying hard to be brave to speak out my actual feelings with people and be true to myself.

I started the car. At first it was cold, but after a few minutes it started becoming warm. It became warm after 5 minutes, and now it is hot. When I turn it off, it will start becoming cool, and after 20 minutes it will become cool.

Vocabulary

gender gap

middle ground
eg. i will try to find the middle ground

context – situation / surrounding information
contents 
index – page numbers and what’s in the book

take on + work / pressure / negativity / mood / job / responsibility

i ran into / bumped into a friend on the street

i was walking on the street and i came across / encountered a guy robbing an old lady

personally / myself = just me (maybe other people are different)

in my heart of hearts = deep down = what i truly believe

yes-man / yes-woman 

internalize 

bottle it up 

to take sth on board = to consider it

take on a lot = to accept responsibility to deal with sth