VIP Class Notes (George) [S]

Watch the series “Modern Family” and talk about the episode next time

Vocabulary

To balance someone’s needs and wants- When you have to consider what someone wants versus what they actually need and how to make that work.

e.g. When it comes to my mother taking care of my child, I really have to balance my needs and wants.

Guilt trip (used as a verb)-When you make someone feel bad by saying things that make them feel guilty.

e.g. My mother always guilt trips me into doing things I don’t want to do.

Submissive- When you allow someone to make most decisions for you.

e.g. When only one partner in a relationship works, the other might be more submissive to them. (meaning they might feel like they have to follow their command)

Power Dynamics- How different positions work in a relationship, either love or work.

e.g. The power dynamics between my boss and I are not equal, she makes the decisions and my colleagues and I must follow.

Cultural perspectives/perceptions- How people in different cultures see similar things.

e.g. The cultural perception of stay-at-home dads is very different in China than in America.

Original

I want to do talk about the differences about American and Chinese families when they have a child. It just happened to me she’s been taken my child all the time for almost three years, and I know that she’s very careful for my daughter, but there is something about education about parenting my child that we have a lot of disputes on this kind of problems and i know this I often watched some US movies most of the american families raise their child on their own without any help from their parents but in China its very different we’re more dependent on our parents when we raise our child. First of all, maybe the social benefit/insurance is better in America, there is a lot of support from the government so they can have this kind of assistance they can do on their own, the daycare provided by your company so you can send your children to these kind of centers, but in China were in lack of such kind of support and our parents are our only support, otherwise I have to be a full-time mother, so I will lose my independency.

Corrected

I want to talk about the differences between American and Chinese families when they have a child. It just happened to me  that she’s been taking care of my child all the time for almost three years, and I know that she cares for my daughter very much, but there is something about education and parenting that we have a lot of disputes on and i know this because I often watched some American movies. Most of the american families raise their children on their own without any help from their parents but in China its very different we’re more dependent on our parents when we raise our children. First of all, maybe the social benefit/insurance is better in America, there is a lot of support from the government so they can have this kind of assistance. They can do it on their own, the daycare is provided by your company so you can send your children to these kind of centers, but in China were in lack of such kind of support and our parents are our only support, otherwise I have to be a full-time mother, so I will lose my independence.

Improved

I want to talk about the differences between American and Chinese families when they have a child. My mother has been taking care of my child for almost three years now, and even though I know she cares for my daughter, we sometimes have strong opinions about things like education or styles of parenting, and because of this, we argue a lot. I’ve been watching a lot of American movies and TV series so I know that Americans raise their children differently than Chinese. Most American families raise their children on their own without any help from their parents but in China we’re more dependent on our parents. I guess one reason would be that the social benefits/insurance is better in America, meaning  there is a lot of support from the government. They can do it on their own because daycare is provided by your company so you can send your children to these kind of centers while you go to work, but in China we don’t have much of this kind of support. Our parents are our only support, otherwise I have to be a full-time mother, so I might not be in a position of financial independence in my family.

ASK

How many months along are you?

How months many months are you?

When are you expecting? (to give birth)

I’m due in November.