F2F Class Notes (Rebekah) [S]

Cecily told me about a psychology podcast she’s been listening to and all the things she is learning about herself. I suggested for homework she looks into which of the 16 personality types developed my Carl Jung and Myers Briggs and discover which one she might be from 16personalities.com. We discussed if many she might be an INFP type.

Recently I have listened to class on learning apps. Its about psychology. Its helps you get about to know yourself and you who really are. Actually I am not an outgoing and confident person and through this course I learned some of my behavior and mindset is originated from my childhood and my parents and how they treat me and educate  me affect me a lot. What you are doing now is kind of decided by your past and even your future. Sometimes when I listen to the podcast, it remind me of some behavior in the past. I found out things that happened very far from now. Sometimes the word you always said will become true, what you say frequently will lead to reality. Sometimes I will say to my colleague about career paths, I am feeling I can’t reach a higher position in this company and she encouraged me a lot and says she thinks I have the capacity and ability to earn more. Maybe I think the reason was from childhood, my parents and the family members around me didn’t think I was extroverted and lack of confidence, and gradually I start to believe them and think that way about myself.

For example, when we had a gathering dinner and everyone talking loudly, but I was very shy and talk very little to other family members and I don’t know what to talk to them. That’s why they think I am not talkative person and shy and timid.

Maybe its related to Chinese culture, parents don’t praise their children much or encourage them much. They always say look at other children and think others are better than you.

I would like to be more myself, In the past I lived the life that others think about me. People would think if you do this you are a good worker and a good wife and the rules that society gives to you. And in the future I want to be myself.

I just remember when I had an interview in the current company, when HR asked “are you married”, then if you say yes, then she she asks if you have a baby already, and if you say yes then she will ask if you plan to have another one.

For me the special personality of me? My mindset has told me I don’t have anything special. My parents were very busy so I was left alone at home and very lonely. Maybe I was sensitive and think a lot.

Revised

Recently I have been listening listened to an educational podcast class on learning apps. Its about psychology. Its helps you get about to know yourself and you who really are. Actually, I am not an outgoing and confident person and through this course I learned some of my behaviors and mindset is originated from my childhood and my parents and how they treated me and how they educated  me has affected affect me a lot. Who you are now What you are doing now is kind of decided by your past and your past can even dictate your future. Sometimes when I listen to the podcast, it reminds me of some of my past behaviors behavior in the past. I found out discovered things that happened very far in my past that still affect me very far from now. Sometimes the words you always said will become true, what you say frequently will lead to reality. Sometimes I have say talked to my colleague about my career paths, I am feeling I can’t reach achieve a higher position/get promoted in this company and she has encouraged me a lot and says she thinks I have the capacity and ability to earn more. Maybe I think the reason I am insecure was from childhood.  My parents and the family members around me didn’t think I was extroverted and thought I lacked of confidence, and gradually I started to believe them and think that way about myself.

For example, when we had a gathering dinner and everyone talking spoke/were speaking loudly, but I was very shy and spoke talk very little to other family members and I didn’t don’t know what to talk to them about. That’s why they think I am not a talkative person and shy and timid.

Maybe its related to Chinese culture, parents don’t often praise their children much or encourage them much. They always say look compare you to  at other children and think others are better than you.

I would like to be more myself. In the past, I lived the life that others wanted for think about me. People would think if you do this you are a good worker and a good wife, these are and the rules that society gives to you. And But in the future I want to be myself.

I just remember when I had an interview in at the current company, when HR asked “are you married”, then if you say “yes”, then she asks if you have had a baby already, and if you say “yes” then she will ask if you plan to have another one.

You ask, what is special about my personality? The special personality of me? My mindset has told me I don’t have anything special/In my mind, there is nothing special about me. My parents were very busy (when I was a child) so I was left alone at home and very lonely. Maybe I was a sensitive little girl and used to think a lot.

Vocabulary

Neuro- linguistic programming: “Neuro” means of the mind/brain, “linguistic” refers to language and “programming” refers to a repeated belief system. Just like you program a computer to learn how to do things, the mind can also be programmed. The words you use, and the things you have been told about yourself, they make up our own programming.

Hone (verb): To gradually improve, to the point of being the best possible. You can only “hone” something that already exists. So you to hone something, you go from maybe a basic level, and keep improving until you are an expert.
eg. I wanted to hone my writing skills, so I took a special course on creative writing.