VIP Class Notes (Lily)[W/R]

Vocabulary

1.direct= 直接, something do you without thinking, planning
ex: When you ask a woman “how old are you/ how heavy are you?”, it’s often a question too direct.

2.weird= strange 奇怪
ex: Lily looks so weird today, she has green and blue eyeshadows with yellow blush.

3. commitment= 承诺，投入
If you are committed to learn English, you should be fluent in two years.

4. target= goal, 目标
ex: My target for this year is to lose 3kg and to buy the pink lady Dior.
ex: My target for this year is to lose 6 kg and have a pig baby. ^^

5. good money= a lot of money
ex: Designers can make good money, they often make more than 20,000 rmb per month.

6. instead: 代替，反而
ex: If you don’t have the blue shirt, I’ll take the grey one instead.
ex: Instead of taking the cab today, I will try the subway.

7. practice= to work on it more, 练习
ex: You need to practice English with a foreigner.
ex: If you want to get better grades at school, you should do more practices at home.
ex: You can practice English by watching English movies, talking to foreigners, reading English books.

8. culture= 文化
ex: Due to culture differences, we had many arguments.

9. embarrassing （adj） = 尴尬的
embarrassed （adj）=尴尬
ex: I feel embarrassed when my mom’s friend compliment me.
ex: I feel embarrassed when I’m singing in front of many people.

https://www.echinacities.com/expat-corner/6-Things-for-Chinese-People-to-Avoid-When-Making-Friends-with-Foreigners

1. Don’t ask if you can be friends

This kind of directness when applied to friendship seems weird to foreigners and is too much of an initial commitment before we get to know you. That kind of candor can scare the laowai away, as friendship to us is not something that you vocally agree on, but rather something that is built over time.

2. Don’t ask if you can practice your English with us

This kind of transactional-like approach can simply make your target feel like they’re being used. Remember that foreigners in China can make good money giving simple conversation classes, so most will see no benefit in chatting with you simply so you can improve your English. Ask if they want to have a coffee or a drink sometime instead. You’ll still get to practice your English, but you might make a genuine friend, too!

3. Don’t ask us about money

While it’s very common to talk about money in China, this is a big no-no in Western cultures. We feel quite uncomfortable when asked about our salaries or how much we paid for something, unless we got an amazing deal, of course. To most of us, our salaries and how much rent we pay are private matters, so we will either refuse to answer or lie, probably quoting a lower figure. It’s embarrassing for us if a Chinese person thinks we’re overpaid, rich or being ripped off.

I am a patient with OCD and I found this problem 10 years ago. For example, every time I go out, I will check the door lock many times. Although I know I have locked it.But today I want to tell some stories about my husband. I think his OCD is much butter than me. He likes cleaning very much. He often kneels on the floor and clean it. he can clean the floor until it like mirror and then he tell me he very satisfied with himself.I remember that once time he had just finished cleaning the Kitchen floor,our neighbors came back.(We share the kitchen with our neighbors)He brought the dirt thing back and stepped on the floor, looking disgusting. At that time, I looked at my husband and I guessed that his heart had collapsed.He began to wipe the floor at once when the neighbor left. I remember another time, when my husband was studied in Japan and I went to see him.I found a funny alarm clock in his apartment.I took it up and looked at it for a while and then put it back. Just then my husband came over and put the alarm clock back to the original angle.

Revised

I suffer with OCD and I found out about this this problem 10 years ago. For example, every time I go out, I will check the door lock many times. Although I knew I have locked it, I still go back and forth to double check. But today I want to tell some stories about my husband. I think his OCD is much worse than me. He likes cleaning very much. He often kneels on the floor and cleans it. He can clean the floor until it looks like a mirror and then he would tell me that he is very satisfied with himself.I remember that one time he had just finished cleaning the kitchen floor,our neighbors came back.(We share the kitchen with our neighbors)and brought back the dirts and stepped on the floor, it looked disgusting. At that time, I looked at my husband and I guessed that his heart had collapsed.He began to wipe the floor at once when the neighbors left. I remember another time, when my husband was studying  in Japan and I went to see him.I found a funny alarm clock in his apartment. I took it/picked it up up and looked at it for a while and then put it back in place. Just then my husband came over and put the alarm clock back to its original angle.