F2F Class Notes (Nicholas)

The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John C Maxwell

How To Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Pronunciation

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Vocabulary

patriotic / they have love for their country / patriot / the person that loves their country

e..g Michelle is a Chinese patriot – she is very patriotic and she has lots of patriotism.

“what Ford has going for it” / what Michelle has going for her / these are the things that are going well for this person or company or anything – these are the things “working in their favor” helping them

e.g. Michelle has a lot of things going for her: she’s smart, she’s educated, she speaks two languages.

e.g. Let me tell you what Ford has going for it: some Americans are very patriotic (they love their country) so they believe if you are American you should “buy American” -“be American, buy American”.

over-exaggerated / to make a small problem seem bigger / to make anything seem bigger than it actually is

e.g. Children tend to over-exaggerate the problems in their life.

“wrong think” / you have committed a “thought crime”

e..g People in America can be shunned 回避 by their friends for “wrong think”.

to shun / 回避

e.g. Michelle made fun of a colleague and was shunned by her fellow workers.

the setting / the background story or environment

e.g. The book 1984 takes places in a setting of increased government regulation.

donate / to give money to a good cause

what would be comparable / it’s similar 

e.g. The cultural revolution was a comparable time period to the setting of 1984.

womb / inside the mother’s belly that carries the baby

e.g. In Handmaid’s Tale women are seen as nothing more than walking wombs.

micro-manage / when a manager looks too closely and comments on every little action you take

e.g. Most employees do not like when their boss micro manages them.

e.g. No one likes a micro manager.

Grammar

Eliminate the present tense – use the past tense

normally just complaining / normally they just complain 

I stay up late last night / I stayed up

it imagine world is not realistic / it’s an imaginary world – it’s not real life / it imagines a world where women are nothing more than womb

one day we have lunch /one day we had lunch / one day we were having lunch

the first year my manager is was an American

he is was very nice /

they are looking to more detailed / they are more detailed-oriented / “I cross every T and dot every I” / “we need to make sure we cross our Ts and dot out Is” / make sure every T is crossed and every I is dotted.

you cannot feel the working freedom / you can’t work freely

they just look at the total picture / they just look at the “big picture” / a big picture person / see the big picture

I don’t have many much experience leading people /

develop some new model cars / develop some new car models

如何赢得朋友影响他人

处理人际关系的技巧

• 不要批评、谴责或抱怨；
• 以诚相待。

让别人喜欢你的六种方法

• 发自内心地关注他人；
• 微笑
• 记住一个人的名字，对那人来说，是任何语言中最甜美、最重要的声音；
• 做一个好的倾听者。鼓励别人谈论自己；
• 就别人的兴趣谈话；
• 让别人感觉到自己很重要——真诚地这样做。

让人们接受你的思维方式

• 解决争论的唯一方法是避免争论；
• 尊重别人的意见。永远不要说“你错了”。
• 如果你错了，请立刻诚恳地承认吧；
• 以友好的方式开始；
• 立即让对方说“是的，是的”；
• 让对方说很多话；
• 诚实地从别人的角度去看待事物；
• 同情地看待他人的想法和愿望；
• 夸张你的想法；

10. 抛开挑战；

成为一个领导者：如何不冒犯或引起怨恨但改变别人

• 从赞美和诚实的欣赏开始；
• 婉转地指出别人的错误；
• 间接引起人的错误注意；
• 在批评别人之前谈论你自己的错误；
• 多询问，别直接下命令。