F2F Class Notes (Li)[W]

Vocabulary

make my own decisions

allow/permit (formal)/let sbd do sth

sth concerns sbd – related to or important to sbd

ex. These problems don’t concern me, I shouldn’t have to deal with them.

see through a problem – to examine a problem deeply

ex. He usually sees through a problem quicker than others.

take action/getting things done

child-rearing – taking care of a child

ex. Many young people don’t have good child-rearing abilities.

opt for sth – choose

ex. I would rather opt for the vegetarian option.

just as much – as much as

ex. Grandparents normally love their grandchildren just as much as their parents do.

compared with

Grammar

Speech marks for quoting what people say 

ex. She said, “Let’s go now!”

ex. She replied, “Call me as soon as you get home!”

ex. He told us “Don’t come near me!”

*Be careful with the punctuation

*Full-stop after closing marks if it’s not what someone said:

We visited a restaurant named “Happy”.  

No speech marks 

ex. The kids told their parents to come here.

ex. He stopped for a second before telling us to finish the reading.

ex. John told me that I should work harder.

How does your upbringing influence your decision-making skills and being independent? How does it compare with your other friends?

I think my decision-making skills depend on my father’s trust. When I was young, he let me decide my own things. I had a deep impression on one meeting in my high school. My teacher asked him a lot of questions about me and my father answered ‘I don’t know.’ Then my teacher was surprised and she said why you didn’t know. He replied because they were her own things and she was able to decide them herself. I don’t like to lie to my parents but you must have something you don’t want to tell them .At that moment I will say I don’t want to talk about this topic. Then my father will not ask me anymore. My father said he trust me and he thought I would never do something dangerous or unreliable. It is hard to say how my upbringing influence on my decision-making skills but it really affected my life and personality. Comparing with other friends, I am more rational and independent. When I encounter problems, I know what I want very clearly and can think problems through. Even the results are not as well as I expect, I can face any situation. My other friends are more sensitive and they will worry about things in the future. I would prefer to do it not just worry or think.

Revised: 

How does your upbringing influence your decision-making skills and being independent? How does it compare with your other friends?

I think my decision-making skills depended on my father’s trust. When I was young, he let/allowed me to make my own decisions. I had a memorable experience during one parent-teacher meeting in my high school. My teacher asked him a lot of questions about me and my father answered, ‘I don’t know.’ Then my teacher was surprised and she said, “Why don’t you know?” He said that because these things are related to/concerns and she should be able to decide them herself. I don’t like to lie to my parents but you must have something that you don’t want to tell them. At that moment, I will tell them, “I don’t want to talk about this topic”. Then my father will not ask me anymore. My father said he trusts me and he thought I would never do anyhing dangerous or unreliable. It is hard to say how my upbringing influences on my decision-making skills but it has really affected my life and personality. Compared with my other friends, I am more rational and independent. When I encounter problems, I know what I want very clearly and can think things through/see through a problem. Even if the results are not as well as I expect, I can face any situation. My other friends are more sensitive and they will worry about things in the future. I would prefer to take action, not just sit there and worry or think about the problem.

Would you prefer a babysitter over grandparents to take care of the children?

When parents have work to do, they have to choose a babysitter or grandparents to take care of their children. It is hard to say which choice is better. It depends on your own situation. For me, I would prefer grandparents. Because they live nearby and I trust them. Comparing with a babysitter,they are someone I know best. There are age gaps and different upbringing habits between grandparents and parents.But they are children’s relatives,so you don’t have to be worried about your children’s safety. They love them so much and they will try their best to take care of them. On the opposite, a babysitter is a stranger for me. I am not familiar with them. It will take me a long time to know them. It will take me more time to trust them. Who you choose ,It depends on lots of things.For example,grandparents are too old to take care of the children or they don’t live nearby.When you have to choose a babysitter to take care of kids,you should pay more attention to the babysitter’s personality not only upbringing skills.

Revised: 

Would you prefer a babysitter over grandparents to take care of the children?

When parents have work to do, they have to choose/opt for a babysitter or grandparents to take care of their children. It is hard to say which choice is better. It depends on your own situation. For me, I would prefer having grandparents. Because they live nearby and I trust them. Compared with a babysitter, they are people I know best. There are age gaps and different upbringing habits between grandparents and parents. But they are children’s relatives/related to your kids so you don’t have to be worried about your children’s safety. They love them just as much and they will try their best to take care of them. On the opposite, a babysitter is a stranger for me. I am not familiar with them. It will take me a long time to get to know them. It will take me more time to trust them. Whoever you choose will depend on lots of things. For example, grandparents are too old to take care of the children or they don’t live nearby. When you have to choose a babysitter to take care of kids, you should pay more attention to the babysitter’s personality, not only babysitting/child-rearing skills.