F2F Class Notes (Lily)[S/R]

Vocabulary

1.random= 随机，out of no where
ex: “Park, lets go skating tonight!” “That’s random..”
ex: Pick a random number from 1-100. “88”. / Pick a random card.

2. direct= straight forward, does not hide emotion, 直接
ex: She is a very direct person, if she doesn’t like you, she will tell you right away.

3. make good money= make a lot of money $$$
ex: Jack Ma makes good money!
ex: Lawyers make good money. 

4. genuine= real
ex: genuine leather, genuine bag, genuine friend

5.embarrassing= feel like you don’t know what to do and a little shy (face red*) 尴尬的
ex: When my mom’s friend compliment me, I feel very very embarrassed. 
ex: When a friend greets me on the street and pretends to be my good friend, I feel embarrassed. 

Last Chinese New Year, I went home and some of my dad’s friend ask me,” how’s your salary?” I got the job in a state-owned company, but I didn’t go there. I was embarrassed and said to them “less than 100,000 a month. ” I don’t want to talk about that. They still talked about that “tell us about your salary, we are your uncles”, but I rejected, I don’t like to lie. So they never talk after that. When I’m in senior high school, they always talk about my grade. One time I said “how’s your salary”, and they thought I was rude.

Revised

Last Chinese New Year, I went home and some of my dad’s friend asked me,” how’s your salary?” I got a job in a state-owned company, but I didn’t go there. I was embarrassed and said to them “less than 100,000 a month. ” I didn’t want to talk about that. They still talked about it nonstop “tell us about your salary, we are your uncles”, but I rejected/refused to answer, I don’t like to lie. So they never talked about it afterwards after that. When I was in senior high school, they always talk about my grades. One time I said “how’s your salary”, and they thought I was rude.

https://www.echinacities.com/expat-corner/6-Things-for-Chinese-People-to-Avoid-When-Making-Friends-with-Foreigners

1. Don’t ask if you can be friends

This kind of directness when applied to friendship seems weird to foreigners and is too much of an initial commitment before we get to know you. That kind of candor can scare the laowai away, as friendship to us is not something that you vocally agree on, but rather something that is built over time.

2. Don’t ask if you can practice your English with us

This kind of transactional-like approach can simply make your target feel like they’re being used. Remember that foreigners in China can make good money giving simple conversation classes, so most will see no benefit in chatting with you simply so you can improve your English. Ask if they want to have a coffee or a drink sometime instead. You’ll still get to practice your English, but you might make a genuine friend, too!

3. Don’t ask us about money

While it’s very common to talk about money in China, this is a big no-no in Western cultures. We feel quite uncomfortable when asked about our salaries or how much we paid for something, unless we got an amazing deal, of course. To most of us, our salaries and how much rent we pay are private matters, so we will either refuse to answer or lie, probably quoting a lower figure. It’s embarrassing for us if a Chinese person thinks we’re overpaid, rich or being ripped off.