F2F Class Notes (Lily)[S]
Pronunciation
obvious= O vee yes
straight- s DRaaaa t (letter a sound)
assume- a sume
Vocabulary
1.random= éćş
ex: Pick a random number from 1-100. “71”
Reading
https://www.echinacities.com/expat-corner/6-Things-for-Chinese-People-to-Avoid-When-Making-Friends-with-Foreigners
We often post articles about how foreigners can make friends with their Chinese neighbours, their colleagues and make small talk at work. But how can Chinese people go about making friends with foreigners? Hereâs my list of important things that Chinese people should NOT do if they want to make friends with random laowai.
1. Donât ask if you can be friends
This kind of directness when applied to friendship seems weird to foreigners and is too much of an initial commitment before we get to know you. That kind of candor can scare the laowai away, as friendship to us is not something that you vocally agree on, but rather something that is built over time.
2. Donât ask if you can practice your English with us
This kind of transactional-like approach can simply make your target feel like theyâre being used. Remember that foreigners in China can make good money giving simple conversation classes, so most will see no benefit in chatting with you simply so you can improve your English. Ask if they want to have a coffee or a drink sometime instead. Youâll still get to practice your English, but you might make a genuine friend, too!
3. Donât ask us about money
While itâs very common to talk about money in China, this is a big no-no in Western cultures. We feel quite uncomfortable when asked about our salaries or how much we paid for something, unless we got an amazing deal, of course. To most of us, our salaries and how much rent we pay are private matters, so we will either refuse to answer or lie, probably quoting a lower figure. Itâs embarrassing for us if a Chinese person thinks weâre overpaid, rich or being ripped off.
4. Donât tell girls they’re beautiful when you first meet them
While this is obviously a compliment, most foreign girls will find it a bit odd/creepy if you tell them theyâre beautiful straight away. Theyâll assume youâre coming onto them (or just weird/being false) and will therefore be unwilling to pursue a friendship with you.
5. Don’t call or text too much
Send a text to your foreign friends only when you have something to say. Texting 20 times a day just to say âhiâ can seem invasive, as we usually only text to make plans or if weâre sharing a story or some news. Texts like âWhatâs up?â are usually used to see if the person is available to hang out. If the laowai replies, ânot much, you?â, do not reply, ânothingâ. The laowai will become confused (and maybe annoyed) about why you text in the first place.
6. Donât say âI miss youâ too soon
In addition, most foreigners donât feel comfortable with messages from people they hardly know that say, âI miss youâ. This is a phrase usually reserved for our closest friends and relatives. Saying it to someone we met once in a coffee shop is not commonplace.
I hope these simple tips will help clear up some of the cultural differences and language barriers that arise when Chinese people are seeking to make friends with foreigners. Good luck and donât be a stranger!
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